My cousin got married a few weeks ago, 16 days ago to be exact. Her face was glowing as she looked her groom in the eyes and said 'I do'.
Do you remember those getty feelings you had for your hubby when you first got married. Those first few months of newness, of love, of bliss. Then suddenly, his dirty socks weren't cute when they were left on the coffee table, and your fabulous dinners, some how they weren't quite like his mom's. It began to annoy you when he left his stuff anywhere it fell, it began to annoy him when you would put it away, in the wrong place.... Hummmm, what happened to bliss, to happily ever after?
I grinned as I sat and listened to them say their vows, not because I thought it was silly, but because their perception of marriage, of this new wonderful life, is just like mine was in my first few months of marriage. I am so glad we are many years down the road. I have learned so much.
Like...
*Always put papers, pagers, cell phones, away in the same place. Even if it isn't where they belong, we both know where to find them.
*Don't tell him a story with all the details (like I would my girl friends), I lose him before I get to the point.
*Don't expect him to match kids clothes, always lay them out. Funny side note, a dad alone in church today, had his daughter dressed in an adorable pure purple outfit from head to toe ankle. On her toes were bright pink socks. I smiled, that would be my husband too.
*Strawberry shortcake doesn't count as a meal, it's dessert. ~we grew up on this... but only when dad wasn't home for diner. Oh, makes sense now :)
*Don't remake the bed after he does, it will be years before he makes it again for you.
My list goes on, but one thing I have learned, that I hold higher than any other thing, is what happens when I respect him.
Ephesians 5:33 "...and the wife must respect (or reverence) her husband."
Why does God command I respect my husband? He designed our husbands to need that. He made them in such a way that when we respect our husbands, they are strengthened, their self esteem is built up, they feel worthy of their position as head of the family. They feel like they are making a difference. Our husbands need respect like we need love.
Respect is an action and a feeling. Our husbands need both forms.
How can you respect your husband?
By honoring his decisions.
Don't complain.
Take note of his accomplishments and verbally praise them.
Allow him to help you fix something, it makes him feel needed.
Gracefully allow him to fail.
Be his biggest fan.
Let him know you love him, no matter what.
Don't beg.
Get involved in his world.
Ask what he desires physically, and meet his needs.
When you show honor and respect with your mouth and your body gestures, your husband will respond. Your marriage will flourish, and those getty feeling just may come back ;)
Do you remember those getty feelings you had for your hubby when you first got married. Those first few months of newness, of love, of bliss. Then suddenly, his dirty socks weren't cute when they were left on the coffee table, and your fabulous dinners, some how they weren't quite like his mom's. It began to annoy you when he left his stuff anywhere it fell, it began to annoy him when you would put it away, in the wrong place.... Hummmm, what happened to bliss, to happily ever after?
I grinned as I sat and listened to them say their vows, not because I thought it was silly, but because their perception of marriage, of this new wonderful life, is just like mine was in my first few months of marriage. I am so glad we are many years down the road. I have learned so much.
Like...
*Always put papers, pagers, cell phones, away in the same place. Even if it isn't where they belong, we both know where to find them.
*Don't tell him a story with all the details (like I would my girl friends), I lose him before I get to the point.
*Don't expect him to match kids clothes, always lay them out. Funny side note, a dad alone in church today, had his daughter dressed in an adorable pure purple outfit from head to
*Strawberry shortcake doesn't count as a meal, it's dessert. ~we grew up on this... but only when dad wasn't home for diner. Oh, makes sense now :)
*Don't remake the bed after he does, it will be years before he makes it again for you.
My list goes on, but one thing I have learned, that I hold higher than any other thing, is what happens when I respect him.
Ephesians 5:33 "...and the wife must respect (or reverence) her husband."
Why does God command I respect my husband? He designed our husbands to need that. He made them in such a way that when we respect our husbands, they are strengthened, their self esteem is built up, they feel worthy of their position as head of the family. They feel like they are making a difference. Our husbands need respect like we need love.
Respect is an action and a feeling. Our husbands need both forms.
How can you respect your husband?
By honoring his decisions.
Don't complain.
Take note of his accomplishments and verbally praise them.
Allow him to help you fix something, it makes him feel needed.
Gracefully allow him to fail.
Be his biggest fan.
Let him know you love him, no matter what.
Don't beg.
Get involved in his world.
Ask what he desires physically, and meet his needs.
When you show honor and respect with your mouth and your body gestures, your husband will respond. Your marriage will flourish, and those getty feeling just may come back ;)
1 comment:
great stuff- so true! oh, and you're right about the clothes- and even don't expect them to be on backwards....
Megan
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