- Never, I repeat NEVER, refuse the help of a child. If you do, they won't be as anxious to help in the future. I know what you are saying, 'It takes 10x longer!' 'You don't know my child!' 'They make a huge mess when they help!' Yes those things are all true, but in the grand scheme of things, you will be thankful you taught them someday. And they will be too.
- Accept a compliment. Don't belittle your self by saying you aren't worthy of someone's praise.
- Treat strangers with respect & politeness. You just might be the only 'Jesus' they meet that day.
- When the still small voice whispers a command in your head, Do It! It might not make sense & you might not understand, but the Lord knows what He is doing.
- Do something crazy with your kids once in a while... declare a PJ day, eat ice cream for breakfast, invite them {with a hand written invitation} to a slumber party in your bedroom... just enjoy your kids!
- Let your friends know you appreciate them.
- Love your husband, even in the unlovable moments.
- Keep perspective. Everything has a season.
- SmILe
Showing posts with label Wives. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Wives. Show all posts
Tuesday, January 31, 2012
A few things I've learned...
Thursday, January 26, 2012
Casting Crowns - Courageous
We watched the movie Courageous as a family over the weekend.
If you haven't seen it, please do. If you live close to me you can borrow my DVD :)
If you haven't seen it, please do. If you live close to me you can borrow my DVD :)
If you are looking for a gift for your man, I would recommend 'Stepping Up' by Dennis Rainey. I have not read the book in it's entirety, but I have skimmed through it.
I think it would benefit any man.
Women, encourage your man.
He needs to know you are standing behind him backing him up.
We need more Courageous Men in this world!
I think it would benefit any man.
Women, encourage your man.
He needs to know you are standing behind him backing him up.
We need more Courageous Men in this world!
Monday, February 14, 2011
Happy Valentines Day!
I hope you take the time today to tell those you LOVE, why you love them.write a loved one a note, be specific with your words
show an act of kindness
make a special meal or dessert
go out for dinner
make valentines for you children, put one in his/her lunch
vacuum & clean up your husbands vehicle
take your children out for an after school date
put your children to bed early, and snuggle without electronic devices
Do you remember your wedding day?How much in LOVE you were with the man of your dreams?
I didn't think I could ever love my husband more than I did on that day.
But, my love for him now, is a thousand times more than it was on that moment.
I have grown to respect my man with all my heart.
It hasn't always been easy.
We've had many tough times.
I've had to do my share of growing up. Not only physically & emotionally, but as a woman, who seeks to honor and respect her husband as God commands.
It was hard for me to surrender authority & allow my husband to lead.
He works long hours, which places me CEO of the daily grind.
To find balance between managing and respecting was challenging.
But as I sought to become a woman after God's heart, He laid it out for me in His Word.
I'm am far from perfect, but God continues to work in my life.
We laugh, we tease, we joke, we call each other best friend.
I'd have it no other way.
Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Meal Giving and a question or two
Have you ever received a meal from someone due to a birth, death or family tragedy? If you have, you know what a blessing it can be. We have received many tasty meals from family, friends and church members since the birth of Ashlynn. It has been great not to have to worry about what is for dinner.
But what if your on the other end, your the meal maker. Does it make you nervous? Do you make excuses so you don't have to? God may be asking you to use a gift He has given you to be a blessing to others. I love to bake and cook, but I still get nervous over what to make. As a Deaconess at Church, my job is to make meals for families with new babies. I have several 'go to' recipes I use as well as these guidelines when I am making a meal...
My questions for you are:
What kind of meals do you like to receive the best?
What are your 'go to' recipes?
What are your most kid friendly dishes?
But what if your on the other end, your the meal maker. Does it make you nervous? Do you make excuses so you don't have to? God may be asking you to use a gift He has given you to be a blessing to others. I love to bake and cook, but I still get nervous over what to make. As a Deaconess at Church, my job is to make meals for families with new babies. I have several 'go to' recipes I use as well as these guidelines when I am making a meal...
- Don't experiment with a new recipe, unless you totally trust the source. Instead have several recipes you feel comfortable with, that are yummy, and pick the one that suits the family you are taking the meal to.
- Ask about allergies/special diets. You wouldn't want to take a dish with breading if someone in the family had Celiac disease...make a meat dish for a vegetarian...take peanut butter cookies to a family who had a child with a peanut allergy.
- Ask if there is anything they really don't like or have received numerous dishes of...fish...pasta...hamburger casseroles...
- If you are really ambitious, ask what their favorite food/vegetable/salad/dessert is. And make it.
- If there are children in the family, ask about their preferences. The last thing a mom wants is to have a meal delivered only to have children who won't eat it.
- Make it fun. A friend recently brought us a meal with cool whip in a can. I don't know when the last time was I bought that stuff. My kids thought they were in heaven!
- Take a meal, not just a dish. I include a main dish, a vegetable or lettuce salad, side salad, dessert and maybe applesauce or something else kid friendly.
- Make everything in disposable dishes. (disposable baking pans, baggies, glad ware...) You can even take paper plates and plastic silverware if you'd like.
- Ask when the best time to deliver is. Arrive on time and don't overstay your welcome.
My questions for you are:
What kind of meals do you like to receive the best?
What are your 'go to' recipes?
What are your most kid friendly dishes?
Saturday, June 06, 2009
The Proverbs 31 Woman
10 Who can find a noble wife? She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband trusts her completely. She gives him all the important things he needs.
12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
13 She chooses wool and flax. She loves to work with her hands.
14 She is like the ships of traders. She brings her food from far away.
15 She gets up while it is still dark. She provides food for her family. She also gives some to her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it. She uses some of the money she earns to plant a vineyard.
17 She gets ready to work hard. Her arms are strong.
18 She sees that her trading earns a lot of money. Her lamp doesn't go out at night.
19 With one hand she holds the wool. With the other she spins the thread.
20 She opens her arms to those who are poor. She reaches out her hands to those who are needy.
21 When it snows, she's not afraid for her family. All of them are dressed in the finest clothes.
22 She makes her own bed coverings. She is dressed in fine linen and purple clothes.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate. There he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen clothes and sells them. She supplies belts to the traders.
25 She puts on strength and honor as if they were her clothes. She can laugh at the days that are coming.
26 She speaks wisely. She teaches faithfully.
27 She watches over family matters. She is busy all the time.
28 Her children stand up and call her blessed. Her husband also rises up, and he praises her.
29 He says, "Many women do noble things. But you are better than all the others."
30 Charm can fool you. Beauty fades. But a woman who has respect for the Lord should be praised.
31 Give her the reward she has earned. Let everything she has done bring praise to her at the city gate.
11 Her husband trusts her completely. She gives him all the important things he needs.
12 She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
13 She chooses wool and flax. She loves to work with her hands.
14 She is like the ships of traders. She brings her food from far away.
15 She gets up while it is still dark. She provides food for her family. She also gives some to her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it. She uses some of the money she earns to plant a vineyard.
17 She gets ready to work hard. Her arms are strong.
18 She sees that her trading earns a lot of money. Her lamp doesn't go out at night.
19 With one hand she holds the wool. With the other she spins the thread.
20 She opens her arms to those who are poor. She reaches out her hands to those who are needy.
21 When it snows, she's not afraid for her family. All of them are dressed in the finest clothes.
22 She makes her own bed coverings. She is dressed in fine linen and purple clothes.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate. There he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen clothes and sells them. She supplies belts to the traders.
25 She puts on strength and honor as if they were her clothes. She can laugh at the days that are coming.
26 She speaks wisely. She teaches faithfully.
27 She watches over family matters. She is busy all the time.
28 Her children stand up and call her blessed. Her husband also rises up, and he praises her.
29 He says, "Many women do noble things. But you are better than all the others."
30 Charm can fool you. Beauty fades. But a woman who has respect for the Lord should be praised.
31 Give her the reward she has earned. Let everything she has done bring praise to her at the city gate.
How many times have you read Proverbs 31? Did you roll your eyes at the thought of reading about this supper woman again? You probably skimmed the passage if even that. Go back to the top, and read the lines I made bold.
(v10) Do you know what Noble means? Webster defines it as 'having excellent qualities', or 'of an exalted moral or mental character or excellence'. Does Noble describe you? Are you a woman of character? Or do you gossip at first chance? Do you cheat your husband by wasting your day on soap's and trashy magazines, by not taking care of yourself and being all you could be?
(v 13) Do you work hard? More importantly, do you go about your work with a good attitude?
(v 15) Do you waste your time on the Internet, watching TV, gossiping on the phone, running here and there, or do you manage your time wisely?
(v 20) Do you give to those around you who need help? Not just the financially poor, but the latch key child across the street, the woman whose husband is emotionally abusing her or always working late, the widow who desires conversation, the 'stranger mom' at the store who needs a friendly smile...
(v 25/26) What do you dress your self in? No, not what brand of clothes, but what starts your day? Time with God, prayer, scripture taped to your bathroom mirror or words of frustration at your husband/children because everyone is late and no one knows where their shoes are?
(v10) Do you know what Noble means? Webster defines it as 'having excellent qualities', or 'of an exalted moral or mental character or excellence'. Does Noble describe you? Are you a woman of character? Or do you gossip at first chance? Do you cheat your husband by wasting your day on soap's and trashy magazines, by not taking care of yourself and being all you could be?
(v 13) Do you work hard? More importantly, do you go about your work with a good attitude?
(v 15) Do you waste your time on the Internet, watching TV, gossiping on the phone, running here and there, or do you manage your time wisely?
(v 20) Do you give to those around you who need help? Not just the financially poor, but the latch key child across the street, the woman whose husband is emotionally abusing her or always working late, the widow who desires conversation, the 'stranger mom' at the store who needs a friendly smile...
(v 25/26) What do you dress your self in? No, not what brand of clothes, but what starts your day? Time with God, prayer, scripture taped to your bathroom mirror or words of frustration at your husband/children because everyone is late and no one knows where their shoes are?
You might not be a seamstress, spin wool or have a vineyard, but you are the keeper of your house. You, mom/wife, set the mood of your house whether you like it or not. Some Biblical scholars believe there are only two women in Proverbs. The wise woman and the woman of folly. The concern isn't whether we (woman) can do everything the Proverbs 31 can, instead it is two things: what do you do with your time? And more importantly, do you fear the Lord? Do you have a bold, all-consuming love for the Lord? When your love for the Lord is greater than your love for worldly things, your life will be radically changed.
You will do things you never saw yourself doing.
You will act in ways you never new you could.
You will embrace the things God created you to.
You will walk with confidence because you know you are a daughter of the King.
You will do things you never saw yourself doing.
You will act in ways you never new you could.
You will embrace the things God created you to.
You will walk with confidence because you know you are a daughter of the King.
Monday, September 15, 2008
Godly Wives
My cousin got married a few weeks ago, 16 days ago to be exact. Her face was glowing as she looked her groom in the eyes and said 'I do'.
Do you remember those getty feelings you had for your hubby when you first got married. Those first few months of newness, of love, of bliss. Then suddenly, his dirty socks weren't cute when they were left on the coffee table, and your fabulous dinners, some how they weren't quite like his mom's. It began to annoy you when he left his stuff anywhere it fell, it began to annoy him when you would put it away, in the wrong place.... Hummmm, what happened to bliss, to happily ever after?
I grinned as I sat and listened to them say their vows, not because I thought it was silly, but because their perception of marriage, of this new wonderful life, is just like mine was in my first few months of marriage. I am so glad we are many years down the road. I have learned so much.
Like...
*Always put papers, pagers, cell phones, away in the same place. Even if it isn't where they belong, we both know where to find them.
*Don't tell him a story with all the details (like I would my girl friends), I lose him before I get to the point.
*Don't expect him to match kids clothes, always lay them out. Funny side note, a dad alone in church today, had his daughter dressed in an adorable pure purple outfit from head to toe ankle. On her toes were bright pink socks. I smiled, that would be my husband too.
*Strawberry shortcake doesn't count as a meal, it's dessert. ~we grew up on this... but only when dad wasn't home for diner. Oh, makes sense now :)
*Don't remake the bed after he does, it will be years before he makes it again for you.
My list goes on, but one thing I have learned, that I hold higher than any other thing, is what happens when I respect him.
Ephesians 5:33 "...and the wife must respect (or reverence) her husband."
Why does God command I respect my husband? He designed our husbands to need that. He made them in such a way that when we respect our husbands, they are strengthened, their self esteem is built up, they feel worthy of their position as head of the family. They feel like they are making a difference. Our husbands need respect like we need love.
Respect is an action and a feeling. Our husbands need both forms.
How can you respect your husband?
By honoring his decisions.
Don't complain.
Take note of his accomplishments and verbally praise them.
Allow him to help you fix something, it makes him feel needed.
Gracefully allow him to fail.
Be his biggest fan.
Let him know you love him, no matter what.
Don't beg.
Get involved in his world.
Ask what he desires physically, and meet his needs.
When you show honor and respect with your mouth and your body gestures, your husband will respond. Your marriage will flourish, and those getty feeling just may come back ;)
Do you remember those getty feelings you had for your hubby when you first got married. Those first few months of newness, of love, of bliss. Then suddenly, his dirty socks weren't cute when they were left on the coffee table, and your fabulous dinners, some how they weren't quite like his mom's. It began to annoy you when he left his stuff anywhere it fell, it began to annoy him when you would put it away, in the wrong place.... Hummmm, what happened to bliss, to happily ever after?
I grinned as I sat and listened to them say their vows, not because I thought it was silly, but because their perception of marriage, of this new wonderful life, is just like mine was in my first few months of marriage. I am so glad we are many years down the road. I have learned so much.
Like...
*Always put papers, pagers, cell phones, away in the same place. Even if it isn't where they belong, we both know where to find them.
*Don't tell him a story with all the details (like I would my girl friends), I lose him before I get to the point.
*Don't expect him to match kids clothes, always lay them out. Funny side note, a dad alone in church today, had his daughter dressed in an adorable pure purple outfit from head to
*Strawberry shortcake doesn't count as a meal, it's dessert. ~we grew up on this... but only when dad wasn't home for diner. Oh, makes sense now :)
*Don't remake the bed after he does, it will be years before he makes it again for you.
My list goes on, but one thing I have learned, that I hold higher than any other thing, is what happens when I respect him.
Ephesians 5:33 "...and the wife must respect (or reverence) her husband."
Why does God command I respect my husband? He designed our husbands to need that. He made them in such a way that when we respect our husbands, they are strengthened, their self esteem is built up, they feel worthy of their position as head of the family. They feel like they are making a difference. Our husbands need respect like we need love.
Respect is an action and a feeling. Our husbands need both forms.
How can you respect your husband?
By honoring his decisions.
Don't complain.
Take note of his accomplishments and verbally praise them.
Allow him to help you fix something, it makes him feel needed.
Gracefully allow him to fail.
Be his biggest fan.
Let him know you love him, no matter what.
Don't beg.
Get involved in his world.
Ask what he desires physically, and meet his needs.
When you show honor and respect with your mouth and your body gestures, your husband will respond. Your marriage will flourish, and those getty feeling just may come back ;)
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